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You should file a police report immediately. Have the police come to the apartment and talk to her, which they will if you tell them she loaded a gun and put it under the pillow. Police may question why you didn't call them last night, but you could say you were in shock or something. Police always come when guns are involved. Make sure your paperwork is in order on them.

This will show her you mean business and you can't be fucked with. The law will have a record on her and if the cop is a good one, he'll give her a very strong rebuke and lesson about firearms and where you end up if you threaten someone with one or discharge it. This could scare her into some sensibility for awhile, or until she begins to think she can kill you and herself and jail then won't even be a possibility. Regardless, having 2 or more police officers in your home poking around can have a chilling effect on future violent action for some time.

Clearly, the emotional, irrational elements of her constitution have taken over. Understand that she is a 30 year old childless woman. Hormonally and instinctually she fears losing her male protector as well as a chance at reproducing near the tail end of her most fertile period. Basically her life is collapsing all about her. It may mean nothing for her to kill herself. Death may be preferrable to the lonely, childless, insecure, impoverished alternative. This may be an exciting thing to be a witness to--I, myself, have always been a keen admirer of the suicidal event and how it precipitates. Only you know the chances on whether she would want to take you with her or not.

Now she knows where your new apartment is, which will be helpful when she starts to stalk you. Very good you told her that. I am looking forward to the phone call where you detail how she attacked some girl you were bringing home. Ah, I am imagining the ugly, ugly scenes now.

I see this ending in a restraining order, an ugly divorce if she lawyers up, with violence interspersed along the way. That you live in the same city is going to make this a lasting, terrific bit of fun for everyone involved.

Good luck.

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You must decide whether she is rational or not. That is an important thing to know. I think you are assuming rationality even as she loads glocks--maybe not a good assumption. Rational people will respond to punishment by stopping to do whatever it is you have warned them to stop doing. So you must punish her. You might be violent with her, but there are other ways. But she must be made to know that picking up loaded weapons has severe consequences. Women, in a manner similar to that of small children, respond well to rewards and punishments. Yelling can be effective too. Might try that first, but escalate it when that fails. Speaking reasonably to her, explaining the rational way to think and act, is not a punishment.

Now, as keeper of the money, you might begin to deny her money to live. That could be one form of punishment. You might do it this way. Tell her there are 2 ways this breakup is going to go:

1. While you go and live on your own, she has a specific time period to go and get a job or put together some sort of plan to start her life on her own. You might tell her she has 6 months to a 1 year to do this. In the meantime you tell her you will pay for her home and utilities. You will pay for her daily living expenses with a per diem, but this will terminate after (let's say) 2 months. She should at least have a job at McDonalds or Home Depot by then to pay for her food. You must keep to this plan and never waiver. Divorce proceedings must also get started with this--keep lawyers away from her. Handle the divorce yourself. She must not be made to know of divorce laws.

2. Or she can just leave immediately for her country. You will purchase her ticket and give her X amount to start her life there. You must get some agreement about divorce at this point though. She may return and get all lawyered up looking to take half of everything.

In the case of any more trouble (hopefully not gunplay) you should punish her severely. Tell her she loses her per diem. Shaking her very hard is also effective--be careful not to bruise her though. If that's not enough tell her you're going to take steps to have her divorced immediately and removed from the house. You might also use her possible lack of knowledge about US laws against her, telling her things like she can be taken away by the police, deported, etc etc. Given her emotional state she may very well believe these things. However, threats are only good if you are willing and able to carry them out. What needs to be established is punishment that she knows she is going to receive when she acts out.

In the case that punishment fails to have its desired effect, you must conclude she is unmanageable, possibly crazy. Though she may very well alternate between what appear to be sane, rational periods and periods of craziness.

One more thing regarding the shaking. If you do leave a bruise be sure to disappear for at least 1 day. Police are able to arrest you on domestic violence charges if they see a bruise AND are able to locate the accused abuser within 1 day that the woman calls the police. They stop looking after a day and arrest warrants are never filed. Might also be good to put a bruise on yourself as well if she's called the cops. You can claim she did that to you if the cops were to find you, and she'd have to go to jail on domestic battery as well. Even the slightest mark will result in jail time and charges for either of you on the person's allegation alone.